Things I wish someone had told me when I was a teenager

Today I decided to bring you another looooong post. If you are looking for pics and such, this post will probably bore you. Still, if you are a teenager, or just any girl who's struggling with some negative things (about you, about society, about life) this post is for you.

Having gone through many of the above myself (and survived!) I wish I could tell teens a thing or two about life.

I hope you like it.



Things I wish someone had told me when I was a teen:

Being different is not a crime:
Sure, high school is all about fitting in and trying to be like the rest to be accepted. If you like different music, or different clothes, you become an outcast.

I know, you have to see these people every day, and they can make your life from barely uncomfortable to fully miserable.

So, you'll probably try to go with the flow, and dress like them, and listen to the music or watch the TV shows they like. But, are you really being yourself?

Some days ago I read a phrase that has so much truth: Why do you try to blend in, when you were born to stand out?


Why do you? Not that my opinion is very relevant to you, but the most interesting people I've known are those who are different. Different is interesting in a world where there's too much of the same.
And even though high-school seems to last forever, they're only four or six years of your life and it does not determine who you'll be.

Plenty of people who weren't "popular" in High School are worldwide famous today! Even many of your idols were bullied in their time.

Besides, let me tell you something I've learned about bullies: they are angry, miserable people who feel so horrible with themselves that they need to bring others down to their level of misery. They are not so "awesome" and "perfect". A girl who's happy with herself doesn't need to call other girls "ugly" or "fat".

And, by the way, if you do that, you need to stop! No one has ever lost a pound over calling someone fat, trust me.


Respect your body and earn perspective:

When I was a teen I hated my body. My boobs and my butt weren't big enough and I was just too skinny. I felt like I wasn't good enough, like guys would never pay attention to me, 'cause I wasn't hot. Plus, I wasn't pretty.

But at some point in my life I realized that feeling sorry for myself was just wrong, and I learned a very important lesson:

Some things, you can't change, so why crying over that? The things you can change, change them! Try to be the best version of you you can be. But do it for YOU.

Because other people's acceptance might be important, but people come and go, and in the end, the only person you're stuck with forever is you.

Be at peace with yourself, find the things you love about yourself and try to enhance that. Learn a language, or to play an instrument. Do the things that make YOU feel good with yourself. I can assure there's more in you to love that you could possibly imagine.

And about body image and weight, don't do anything stupid, like skipping meals, or just not eat.

If you were on the tenth floor, would you jump off the window just to get faster to the ground? Yeah, you'll get there fast, but you'll sure as hell hurt yourself badly.

That's the exact same thing with not eating: you might end up skinny, but at what price??? Don't be stupid! Nothing and no one is important enough to hurt yourself like that!

Try to be healthy, nourish your body with healthy food, play some sport.

But don't do it just to be thin, do it because it's what your body needs.

I've come to realize that the most beautiful girls have this sort of aura around them that comes from feeling happy with themselves, and, trust me, sports will give you that. You'll become more active and happy.

And don't just lock yourself up in a gym, find something you actually enjoy.

You know what? I used to run when I was a teen (and then I quit, which I regret badly!). And even though I was skinny, I was actually very toned! I had a cute little muscular butt I hadn't noticed and great abs, which I miss right now. I see old pics and I didn't have the terrible body I thought I had (Though, yes, my hair was a mess and my clothes were terrible XD)



Boys are idiots

Well, not all of them, of course.

But most of them in their teen years watch porn or see models in magazines and they think that's what they have to aim for, because their rampaging hormones tell them to.

So, yeah, nobody is good enough for them unless you could photoshop yourself before leaving your house in the morning.

What can you do? They're brainwashed and hormone-controlled, so please, forgive them for being that way.

And don't be hard on yourself for not fitting in their standards. It'll eventually wear off and once they become men they change. A lot.

I was never hot enough for boys when I was a teen but today I have a boyfriend who loves me and loves my body. He truly likes everything about me, even the boobs that never grew.


Don't waste your talent:

I'm pretty sure you're good at something. Maybe you're good at some sport, or at playing some instrument, or drawing, or singing.

Exploit that, learn more and perfect yourself. Don't demand way too much of you, though; try hard, but not too hard.

And quit doing it when it's no longer fun or satisfying. It should be something you enjoy, don't make it a nightmare to be the very best. It's not a competition with the rest of the world, only with yourself.


Laugh, be happy, enjoy life!

Do something you love. Learn to laugh at yourself every know and then.

If someone calls you names or is just mean to you, laugh it off, don't get mad, don't give them the satisfaction of letting it hurt you.


You are the most important person in your life (though family and those loved ones also count, of course!).

You are awesome in more ways that one, but you also need to be humble, because no one likes stuck-ups.

You might be alone now, but it won't last forever, high-school doesn't last forever, and being popular between the four walls of your school does not determine how important you'll ever be to the rest of the world in the years to come.

Yes, I know, high school can be a pain in the ass, people can be rude and it sucks, but it's not EVERYTHING, and the person you are in high school is not the one you'll be forever.

You can always change, and change for the better.
So, go for it!!!